Source: Women24 - Agony Aunt

QUESTION

I have no idea what's wrong with me, I feel very messed up at this stage. I'm 26, been married for 7 years and have a 4-year old son with my hubby. I love him so deeply but recently I've been ""flirting"", fantasising and admiring other guys. My feelings are so strong that I'm so madly in love with a good friend of ours (who's unattached) I can't stop thinking about him. I would most definitely have an affair. I've even told my hubby how I feel and we're very close, so it's cool. He says he understands and that it's normal. But I feel so guilty!!!! How can I ""reconnect"" with hubby so that I don't hurt him and lose everything I've worked so hard for!? AND is this normal at all??

ANSWER

Ever heard of the 7 year itch? What you're feeling is completely normal. Just don't let it get out of control. You're flirting and making yourself fall in love, because the idea of falling in love all over again appeals to you. You're acting like a teenager because you miss the angst and ecstasy of young love. Point is, you want to feel young and desirable and excitable again. This is not the end of the world. If you told your husband the truth and he was okay with it, it's unlikely you'll ""lose"" anything. Continue to be honest with him and don't have sex with your friend. Anyway, fantasise away, but try to really SEE your husband again. He sounds like a catch. I'm sure if you spend some time alone, without your kid and other distractions you might just fall in love all over again with him. Monogamy is difficult, but think of what you're getting in return.